Achieve your goals by giving up first.
I wonder how many times I have waited until the start of a new year to go on a diet, begin a new marketing plan or revise my goals and agenda. The plan in my mind was always to get rid of the old and start the New Year off with a renewed mind-set and good planning.
I have a simple mindmap on my bulletin board and as I review it, I am pleased with some of the results and a little bummed at what I didn’t even address, yet alone achieve. My 2014 plan will be similar to my 2013 plan. Copy and edit!
At the top of the list was “Simplify & Focus.” I made some good progress on that, but not as much as I wanted. Interestingly, it is one of the top topics my accountability partner has identified for her business too.
I’m excited to have an accountability partner again. It’s nice to have someone you trust who you can bounce ideas off of or receive objective opinion from. It’s even better when the AP has some complimentary skills or experience to bring to the table. It’s also useful to have someone kick you in the ass when you need it or give some reassurance when needed.
In fact, this post is a result of my AP noticing that I haven’t posted here in a while and challenging me to get one out by Monday. She also sent me 2 article ideas. (Aw, bless her little heart!)
The Year of Giving Up!
Unfortunately for many, each year brings failed resolutions and those can be troubling. Maybe they weren’t the right goals in the first place?
Maybe you’re like me – that failure is not an option. It may be the anal-retentive German in me, but you feel an obligation, especially when someone else is involved, whether family, friend or client. You made a commitment!
Let’s face it, some of the best laid plans and great ideas go nowhere. Or they take more time and resources to achieve than previously thought.
A resolution or project may hinge on the talents or cooperation of another person who may not be as talented as you thought or cooperative as they once were.
No problem. Give up!
It’s killing your personal and financial ROI.
Don’t feel defeated. Napoleon Hill said, “When defeat comes, accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more toward your coveted goal.”
Gives new meaning to the expression, “Out with the old and in with the new!”
Understand that I’m not suggesting that you abandon any obligations. You need to be accountable and it may take some time and resources to bow out. But it may be well worth it!
What I’m suggesting is that giving up on an objective, project or individual, after careful consideration, can free your mind, renew your spirit and give you more resources to achieve other important personal or professional goals. Cut your losses and move on.
You owe it to yourself and others who depend on you.
Do you deserve it? Absolutely!
It’s been suggested before and maybe you’ve experienced it. Some consultants and coaches recommend that you fire the bottom 10% of your clients every year, and that can be very gratifying!
I’ve terminated employees and vendors who just didn’t work out and could no longer support no matter how much I wanted to. And there were a few I really wanted to!
I never thought I would get divorced – it just wasn’t how we were raised. But after thinking about it for a couple of years, it felt great when I finally made the change. I’m not saying I’m proud of that. But it was the right thing to do for both of us even though it took time, effort and emotional capital.
Let’s start 2014 by making our dreams & goals a reality.
1) Start with a new mind-set.
We often start a new year’s resolution with yesterday’s thinking. Write down all the negative thoughts you have regarding each previous defeat (e.g. “nothing ever works for me”, “I cannot invest in this anymore”, “I don’t have enough support or resources”, etc.). Then write down new and positive thoughts that will lead you to success. Go with what works.
2) Habits are important, whether they are good or bad.
What triggers you to fall back into the old habits that stopped you from having success? Make a list of circumstances or events that may trigger defeat. Use productive thinking and write out what you can do to succeed and give up on your old habits.Find a trustworthy support system.
Many of us fail at doing our best because we do not have a person(s) who will tell us what we need to hear instead of what we want or hope to hear.
3) Find people striving for the same goals you are trying to achieve.
It might be a friend or colleague who will support you. Whoever it is, they should be there from the start to the finish and always have your best interests in mind. Like an accountability partner!
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. How are you going to spend it? Don’t wait to get started. Make 2014 a year designed just for you!
I wish you peace.